writes:

I offer you an alternative method of dealing with that pressure.
Instead of not offering, properly set the expectations up front.

Amen brother!

Accidents are set up days, or even years in advance, by the attitudes
we develop in ourselves and others. Whenever I offer someone a ride,
or go on a cross-country for myself, I try to set up everybody's
expectations:

- wife: I might be a few days late for weather, I'll call every night
and let you know.

- job: Ditto. I might need more vacation time than planned, I'll
call if I get delayed.

- pax: We might get delayed. If you can't wait with me, I'll do
everything I can to put you on a bus or whatever you want to get back
home.

- sightseeing trips: I'll call you before you leave the house if it
doesn't look good. We may get to the airport and then it may not look
good, your safety and comfort are more important than this particular
flight, so we may have to reschedule at the last minute.

By acting as pilot in *command* well in advance, people are more
comfortable at the moment of flight.