wrote:
Anyway, if you are going to quit, then do it like a man, dammit,
instead of hanging around and whining about it.

One of the real problems with growing or maintaining our sport is
retention of people we have attracted and spent resources on to train.
When someone leaves, such as described above, we need to know why so it
does not get repeated. The club, or operator, or whatever that this
person felt rejected from needs to know they got it wrong.
I think he should not go quietly,...

Er...Not in this case. He not only didn't go quietly, he didn't stay
quietly and he didn't enter quietly. Greybeard / Lennie the Lurker /
nobody@nowhere / numerous other aliases not only told all of us at
length over many months why he had left, he also told us over almost as
long a period why he was going to leave and even earlier, he took as
long to tell us why he was thinking he might leave even though he hadn't
really started. Nearly every visit to the field was preceded by weeks
of email angst.

Google r.a.s. for those aliases and you'll see what I mean. Kirk spoke
for a lot of people.

..but should let them know why he felt
excluded. It might be a misunderstanding and fixable.

It's a misunderstanding. They thought he was reasonable. It's not fixable.

GC

UH