Larry Dighera wrote:

On Fri, 28 Oct 2005 Michelle P
wrote:

If I am every man's dream how come i cannot find the right one?


What qualities and qualifications must the "right one" possess for
your to perceive him as being right?


On Sun, 30 Oct 2005 22:48:03 GMT, Michelle P
wrote in
et::

Larry,
I am looking for someone who is not on a power trip, out to prove
something. I.e. Full of them self.

Right. The truly superior don't need to act superior; their
superiority is tacitly apparent. It is those who feel inferior who
need to constantly assert their pseudo superiority.

Of course, many cultures (ours included to some extent despite the
progress made in the last few decades) demand the man to be the leader
in the relationship, and the woman to be subservient to his will. As
a rather extreme example, I can recall seeing a man walking along the
road in Mexico City in the '60s with his wife trailing several paces
behind. This "old world" thinking is anathema to an independent
woman, and it is a poor substitute for true collaboration. But it
does impose some subtle expectations on both individuals in a
relationship. I doubt that is what you are referring to, but it's a
matter that needs to be worked out explicitly, so that no one has
unreasonable expectations.

Interested in airplanes or flying.

Would you settle for supportive of your aviation activities? Not that
it's impossible to find a man with an airmans certificate who doesn't
need to prove he's superior, but selecting from a larger pool might be
more realistic.

I've had the pleasure of a long relationship with an aviatrix (in the
past now), and I didn't find it significantly more harmonious nor
fulfilling than a relationship with a SO who just enjoys traveling the
Victor airways in pursuit of new experiences. What really makes a
difference is an attitude of eagerness, willing participation, and
enjoyment of flight as a means of transportation, rather than
apprehension and discouragement.

Light drinker to non-drinker, non-smoker.

That is a wise requirement. Over time those things tend to grow in
magnitude. And it's reasonably safe to presume, that alcohol tends to
induce a certain amount of aggressive behavior and accentuate any
latent machismo the man may possess. Most folks tend to find the
resulting boorish behavior repugnant.

Beyond that I am pretty flexible.

If it's not too presumptuous, I would suspect that intelligence
matching or exceeding yours, the ability to command an income adequate
to support a family, and the desire for children might also be veiled
longings buried beneath the conscious.

What are your long-term goals?

I like to stay busy, Outside mostly. Kayaking (touring),

So you'd probably find someone who lacked physical conditioning and
stamina less than desirable.

I weld, Work on my own airplane, not cars unless necessary. I have
been know to build houses (Habitat for Humanity), Donate my time to
other charitable causes, and make sawdust in the basement. I spent
today cleaning and staining the deck.

So constructive physical activity appears to be a mainstay for you.
What man who enjoys working with his hands wouldn't welcome someone
with your industry and skills?

That is a good start.....

Michelle


Although you haven't mentioned it, I'd guess you have a cerebral side
as well. What about the arts and theater, philosophy; do you have any
interest in those sort of activities? Is sociality with friends and
family something you need?

There are a few major attributes we've failed to mention also:

1. Race
2. Religion or lack thereof
3. Height
4. Weight
5. Marital status and dependent children
6. Criminal record
7. Appearance
8. Fidelity
9. Honesty
...