Newps wrote:


Matt Whiting wrote:

Newps wrote:



Morgans wrote:

"Newps" wrote


Nope. In this house the boys have known since day one that any
road vehicle they are interested has a four wheel minimum.
Motorcycle? Don't even ask. Same goes for tattoos and earrings.





You may someday learn that parenting sometimes has to pick and
choose which battles to fight. One of those may not be worth
fighting, someday.




I'm well aware of that and make those decisions daily, like any
parent. But these are absolutes.



And absolutes only make teens try absolutely as hard as possible to
get around them.


Actually that's not the case. My kids ridicule kids with tattoos. They
see the idiot teenage motorcycle drivers and know that's why they won't
be on one. The rules make sense and they can see that. It's not even a
battle.

If your kids have no desire to ride a motorcycle, then the rule makes
sense, but is also irrelevant. If your kids have a desire to ride, then
it makes no sense and would be relevant and would be ignored. I had a
strong desire to ride from a very young age. I learned off-road on a
small minibike and worked my way up slowly. I bought a street bike when
I turned 16 and have been riding, safely, ever since and that was more
than 30 years ago.

My kids have never shown any interest in flying so I could ban them from
that and they wouldn't give a rats behind. However, if I banned them
from using IM or similar, they'd just use it at friends homes and I'd
likely never know. I'd rather they use it under my supervision where I
can point out the dangers in addition to the benefits.

We all have our own philosophies.


Matt