"Peter Duniho" wrote

My point is that "what we know so far" is precious little, and hardly
enough
to justify any anger.

Anger, and a person's reasons for becoming angry, is a very personal,
experience driven reaction.

I would suggest that you accept and respect other's anger, produced in
reaction to the incident, and that others respect your need to withhold
feelings of anger in reaction to the incident.

Nobody is going to change the other's mind in this case. Best to respect,
accept, and move along.
--
Jim in NC