On Sep 30, 10:58 pm, (Paul Tomblin) wrote:

I don't think she'll tell me to stop, because she knows I was a pilot
before we married. But what can I do to reassure her? The pilot
community is pretty small, and losing three people associated with our
little club is pretty scary for her.

Paul,
How about trying to get her more involved in flight planning:
checking the weather, obtaining airport information etc? If she is
not interested in direct planning, you can explain to her your flight
planning procedure, your go or no-go criteria. Knowing more about the
flight will certainly make her feel more at ease. The same goes when
she is flying with you, you can ask her to help out by reading the
map, looking out for traffic, learning to use the GPS to check for
nearest airport, terrain etc. I'd think that being activively involved
in the flying process will make one feel safer, more in control.
Someone had already suggested you to attend safety seminars,
getting additional training, practicing emergency procedures. By doing
those things and letting your wife know that you are doing it, will
certainly make her feel safer. Better yet, take her along to safety
seminars. We attend safety seminars regularly and saw quite a few of
non-flying spouses.

Hai Longworth