nobody writes:

None.

Then your pilot friends are not representative of the pilots under discussion.
The pilots being discussed are those who drink and drive. Obviously, if
someone is careful not to drink and drive, he'll probably be at least as
careful not to drink and fly.

I can think of at least ten

How many of them are still alive?

As I said, I mistrust your sample. I socialize with pilots and non-pilots.
How many pilots do you socialize with?

I don't socialize at all. I rely on studies with sound methodologies rather
than anecdotal personal experience.