M B wrote:

In my experience, I have seen and been a part of confusion
in
the cockpit. One pilot is saying one thing and the
other is
contradicting it. I've also had both pilots on the
controls at the same time, with opposite pressures
applied.

I'm more and more, well, surprized, what you have been experiencing
while flying. I've never seen, even less been part of such a thing.
Communicate before the flight, define the roles and adhere to it. Who
will do what? Who will fly in an emergency? Communicate during the
flight, and do so clearly.

And, you may ask, if the other pilot is doing something I don't like?
Well, if I don't trust the other pilot, I won't fly with him. If he
doesn't trust me, I don't want him to fly with me. Simple as that, very
basic CRM stuff. (It needn't be offensive when I say I don't like his
way of flying, because I'm not implying that he's a bad pilot, I'm just
saying our styles are incompatible.)

I'm surprized that, as it seems, you can become an instructor in the USA
without knowing such basic stuff.

Stefan