osite (RobertR237) wrote in message ...
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(Snowbird) writes:

Sort of like having kids, if you wait until you can afford
them it will be too late and you will be over the hill.

Oh, hush
Sydney (OTH parent of 3 yo)

Gee, did I hit a nerve?

No, kinda the contrary. We waited to have a child until we
felt comfortable financially, and I *am* the lucky parent of
a wonderful child. It was *not* too late, that's the point.

Yes, we could have had trouble we might not have had when we
were younger, and yes, it was harder on me physically than it
would have been when I was younger.

OTOH, younger parents who are struggling financially and/or
trying to grow up emotionally and work things out with a spouse,
have different troubles and they're not necessarily pretty either.

Robert, I take your essential point to be something like,
"if it's something you really really want, plane...kid...
whatever...there will never be a Perfect Time so just
consider your priorities carefully and if that's what you
really want, Go For It." And if I've distilled it correctly,
I pretty much agree.

But I really dislike hearing "if you don't do it now, it
will be too late", because IME one way and another it's
usually not true. So if it's honestly NOT a top priority
for one or another reason, I think it's important to say:
DON'T rush into it...plane...kid. Because chances are good
when it's the right time for YOU, and your other ducks are
more or less in a row, it can still happen.

Sydney (born moderate -- can usually get both sides of an
argument mad at me)