"Larry Dighera" wrote in message
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Well, perhaps it's just me, but if I have to lie to my SO to assert my
command authority as PIC, I would be looking for another SO pronto.

Me too. But like I said, that's not an aviation issue, and since you don't
know the specifics of the relationship in question, you can't make a blanket
statement about what "works" for them.