The E Word

Michelle P wrote:
Stubby,
Thank You,
If I am every man's dream how come i cannot find the right one? I seem
to scare a lot off because I am more competent than they in a lot of
areas. Modest aren't I?

Well, I'm already happily married so I won't ask for a list of which
areas... :-)

Matt

On Fri, 28 Oct 2005 21:31:16 GMT, Matt Whiting
wrote in ::

If I am every man's dream how come i cannot find the right one?

What qualities and qualifications must the "right one" possess for
your to perceive him as being right?

Larry Dighera wrote:
On Fri, 28 Oct 2005 21:31:16 GMT, Matt Whiting
wrote in ::


If I am every man's dream how come i cannot find the right one?


What qualities and qualifications must the "right one" possess for
your to perceive him as being right?

Larry, you need to exercise more care in your posts. I wrote nothing
above, yet you have it attributed to me.

Matt

On Sat, 29 Oct 2005 00:39:25 GMT, Matt Whiting
wrote in ::

Larry Dighera wrote:
On Fri, 28 Oct 2005 21:31:16 GMT, Matt Whiting
wrote in ::


If I am every man's dream how come i cannot find the right one?


What qualities and qualifications must the "right one" possess for
your to perceive him as being right?

Larry, you need to exercise more care in your posts. I wrote nothing
above, yet you have it attributed to me.

Matt

You are absolutely correct.

I just upgraded to a new version of Forte Agent. In the past, Agent
always got the attribution correctly, but perhaps there is a bug in
the new version. Here is the correct quote:

On Fri, 28 Oct 2005 18:23:20 GMT, Michelle P
wrote in
et::

If I am every man's dream how come i cannot find the right one?

Larry,
I am looking for someone who is not on a power trip, out to prove
something. I.e. Full of them self. Interested in airplanes or flying.
Light drinker to non-drinker, non-smoker.
Beyond that I am pretty flexible.
I like to stay busy, Outside mostly. Kayaking (touring), I weld, Work on
my own airplane, not cars unless necessary. I have been know to build
houses (Habitat for Humanity), Donate my time to other charitable
causes, and make sawdust in the basement. I spent today cleaning and
staining the deck.

That is a good start.....

Michelle

Larry Dighera wrote:

On Fri, 28 Oct 2005 21:31:16 GMT, Matt Whiting
wrote in ::



If I am every man's dream how come i cannot find the right one?



What qualities and qualifications must the "right one" possess for
your to perceive him as being right?

Well heck!,
You sound like a keeper to me Michelle. I had to give up the whitewater
kayaking, it was just way to much on my bum leg. But I'd still like to kayak
, maybe I'll break down one of these days and get another boat! And you know
in the aviation industry meeting anybody who is not full of themself is
going to be the hard part! You'll find him.... most of the time when you
aren't looking!

Patrick
student SP
aircraft structural mech

"Michelle P" wrote in message
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Larry,
I am looking for someone who is not on a power trip, out to prove
something. I.e. Full of them self. Interested in airplanes or flying.
Light drinker to non-drinker, non-smoker.
Beyond that I am pretty flexible.
I like to stay busy, Outside mostly. Kayaking (touring), I weld, Work on
my own airplane, not cars unless necessary. I have been know to build
houses (Habitat for Humanity), Donate my time to other charitable causes,
and make sawdust in the basement. I spent today cleaning and staining the
deck.

That is a good start.....

Michelle

Larry Dighera wrote:

On Fri, 28 Oct 2005 21:31:16 GMT, Matt Whiting
wrote in ::


If I am every man's dream how come i cannot find the right one?


What qualities and qualifications must the "right one" possess for
your to perceive him as being right?

Larry Dighera wrote:

On Fri, 28 Oct 2005 Michelle P
wrote:

If I am every man's dream how come i cannot find the right one?


What qualities and qualifications must the "right one" possess for
your to perceive him as being right?


On Sun, 30 Oct 2005 22:48:03 GMT, Michelle P
wrote in
et::

Larry,
I am looking for someone who is not on a power trip, out to prove
something. I.e. Full of them self.

Right. The truly superior don't need to act superior; their
superiority is tacitly apparent. It is those who feel inferior who
need to constantly assert their pseudo superiority.

Of course, many cultures (ours included to some extent despite the
progress made in the last few decades) demand the man to be the leader
in the relationship, and the woman to be subservient to his will. As
a rather extreme example, I can recall seeing a man walking along the
road in Mexico City in the '60s with his wife trailing several paces
behind. This "old world" thinking is anathema to an independent
woman, and it is a poor substitute for true collaboration. But it
does impose some subtle expectations on both individuals in a
relationship. I doubt that is what you are referring to, but it's a
matter that needs to be worked out explicitly, so that no one has
unreasonable expectations.

Interested in airplanes or flying.

Would you settle for supportive of your aviation activities? Not that
it's impossible to find a man with an airmans certificate who doesn't
need to prove he's superior, but selecting from a larger pool might be
more realistic.

I've had the pleasure of a long relationship with an aviatrix (in the
past now), and I didn't find it significantly more harmonious nor
fulfilling than a relationship with a SO who just enjoys traveling the
Victor airways in pursuit of new experiences. What really makes a
difference is an attitude of eagerness, willing participation, and
enjoyment of flight as a means of transportation, rather than
apprehension and discouragement.

Light drinker to non-drinker, non-smoker.

That is a wise requirement. Over time those things tend to grow in
magnitude. And it's reasonably safe to presume, that alcohol tends to
induce a certain amount of aggressive behavior and accentuate any
latent machismo the man may possess. Most folks tend to find the
resulting boorish behavior repugnant.

Beyond that I am pretty flexible.

If it's not too presumptuous, I would suspect that intelligence
matching or exceeding yours, the ability to command an income adequate
to support a family, and the desire for children might also be veiled
longings buried beneath the conscious.

What are your long-term goals?

I like to stay busy, Outside mostly. Kayaking (touring),

So you'd probably find someone who lacked physical conditioning and
stamina less than desirable.

I weld, Work on my own airplane, not cars unless necessary. I have
been know to build houses (Habitat for Humanity), Donate my time to
other charitable causes, and make sawdust in the basement. I spent
today cleaning and staining the deck.

So constructive physical activity appears to be a mainstay for you.
What man who enjoys working with his hands wouldn't welcome someone
with your industry and skills?

That is a good start.....

Michelle


Although you haven't mentioned it, I'd guess you have a cerebral side
as well. What about the arts and theater, philosophy; do you have any
interest in those sort of activities? Is sociality with friends and
family something you need?

There are a few major attributes we've failed to mention also:

1. Race
2. Religion or lack thereof
3. Height
4. Weight
5. Marital status and dependent children
6. Criminal record
7. Appearance
8. Fidelity
9. Honesty
...